Hi I have read all your comments and although I am not married to a Doctor my dad was a Doctor and I think marrying a Doctor is no different to marrying any man who works with his own ambitions. We all know people who know that the gospel is true but they will not accept it. Either way, if you have kids and you don't convert, she will divorce you and take your kids away from you and you will be shunned from her community.
If my husband and I had been dating during any of this, it would not have lasted long a few weeks maximum. Mormon women greatly value sincerity of purpose. Do you want to be married in the temple. Children thrive on clarity and consistency. Unconditional love, excellent communication, and unwavering support.
Pray about it and follow your heart. It MAY be true that she will not marry him unless he converts. I also remember my father a stake president telling me the night before I got married that every single couple he had counseled through marriage struggles were not reading their scriptures or praying together every night. In truth if I had a chance to "do it all again" type of thing. And of course we have been taughtвby Brigham Young, at leastвthat even when Christ comes during the Millenium there will be those who will not accept him as their Savior even if they accept him as the leader of the world. So it will just be for this life that it may be hard to have a non-believing spouse. I expected to find this sisterhood of wives that would comfort, uplift, and laugh with one another.
I believe strongly that I was meant to marry my spouse. Not being an RM, they weren't really interested in me. I knew a guy who joined the Mormon church because he thought it would help him date a certain Mormon girl, a girl who refused to date non-Mormons. Meaning that unless you are willing to become Mormon And your savings account. Love the way you normalize the challenges of being married.