I pray the holy Spirit will provide guidance to both of us, and that love conquers all. Although there are no strict rules as to who should do the asking, the Mormons are very conservative and in general, they expect guys to do the asking. For instance, I am okay with the us not seeing each other very often part.
All this said, God is love and fully understands and appreciates your problem. To me, the core question is, is this person inclined toward self transcendence are the inclined, desirous, self aware enough to be selfless. She sacrificed two years of her life to convert people to the religion. I was happy to read your blog. I feel I have given a lot of myself and in the process have lost myself and my identity.
To Anonymous, Your comment also left me heartbroken. True Believer Mos base their actions on a set of priorities that make no sense to Nomos. If you think your girlfriend's resistance to being exposed to anything critical of Mormonism sounds cult-like, you are right.
But realistically, if she is not open minded enough to even listen to someone who has a contrasting view of the church - how will she not continually discount you and your lack of beliefs. It would be ludicrous to think otherwise. I think your response is Bang on.